Posts Tagged Julie Klam
“If you’re not a big Internet user, the one thing you need to know is that people lo-o-o-o-ve acronyms/ abbreviations. I hate them and pretty much refuse to use them, mainly because the most common ones are not things I would every actually say. I don’t say Laugh Out Loud (LOL) or call my child Dear Daughter (DD), plus I think these abbreviations very quickly lead to people attempting to communicate with a big string of undifferentiable cliches.”
Friendkeeping by Julie Klam. Publisher: Riverhead Books (November 2012). Memoir. Hardcover. 240 pages. ISBN: 978-1-59448-806-1.
Julie Klam and I have a lot in common. We seem to have quite similar thoughts about work, writing, social networking and friendships. We both dislike using acronyms on the Internet. She’s the successful older sister I’ve never had. I’d like to write memoirs. She’s published three. Unlike Julie Klam, I’ve met VERY few of my twitter friends in real life. I’ve suggested meeting for coffee or a drink but most people don’t want to meet. Julie now has very close friends and colleagues in writers Ann Leary and Laura Zigman who she met through Twitter. They do a radio show on NPR called “Hash Hags” together where they interview authors. That’s a Twitter networking success story!
If you’re expecting a field guide as described on the cover of Friendkeeping, you’ll be quickly disappointed. Most of the time she comes across as rather narcissistic and selfish, but it’s her memoir and she writes as she remembers it. And she’s got the friends and maybe you don’t and are reading to find out how to keep them. This isn’t a how-to book. Klam instead tells stories of her own friendships—the long-term ones, the on-off ones, the ones met through twitter.
Friendkeeping according to Julie Klam:
“It does help to be in the same place in life as someone you are friends with; you can be supportive to a pregnant woman when you don’t have to look back forty years to your own pregnancy, and maybe the same principle applies If you’re both working at the same place or you’re both single or both newly married or you both let four dogs sleep in your bed.”
On being yourself:
“I suddenly realized that I hadn’t been lobotomized—the person I was before I became a mother was in there. I had interests, or at the very least I was in interested in people who had interests other than children.”
From @friends to IRL:
“For me, it’s brought new like-minded friends into my fray and reconnected me with old friends I am sure I never would have found otherwise. And once we meet online, we are free to move things into the three-dimensional world.”
FTC Disclosure: I did NOT receive this for review from the publisher.
Title: You Had Me At Woof: How Dogs Taught Me the Secrets of Happiness
Author: Julie Klam
Hardcover: 240 pages
Publisher: Riverhead Hardcover (October 28, 2010)
With no career and no boyfriend, I had the feeling that I was waiting for my life to start, and I needed something special to show me how to make it happen.
One of the must reads of fall is YOU HAD ME AT WOOF: How Dogs Taught Me the Secrets of Happiness by the witty Julie Klam. Many of us have felt like Klam did years ago: on the verge of something but not quite sure what; feeling stalled in her career; and perhaps a bit wayward. We look for guidance from others, our experiences, reading and within ourselves but it’s challenging to pull oneself out of a deep rut. Klam adopts a Boston terrier named Otto [It took time, but my relationship with Otto made me realize that if you love someone, you’re more than willing to compromise to meet their needs . . .]. People love their pets because they usually find this unconditional love and also that the pet relies on them for their basic needs. If you have that, it’s hard to ignore it.
In YOU HAD ME AT WOOF, Klam candidly describes her experience with rescuing Boston terriers. She picked them up and delivered them to foster homes and she also took in a few memorable dogs to her own apartment. She and her family hosted the challenging Hank and the mysterious Chip. Then there’s Beatrice and Moses that she and her family decide to adopt. She fosters Dahlia who ends up being pregnant and Klam and her husband and daughter Violet decide to keep two of the puppies—Wisteria and Fiorello. They also keep Dahlia, the unsuspecting pregnant terrier. Throughout her Boston terrier rescue experiences, Klam meets all types of people, sometimes in the most bizarre and sad settings. She also takes in dogs that have been hurt in the past and are coping through their animal nature. Klam learns patience and tolerance with the different dogs. She also learns how to be perhaps less judgmental with people.
YOU HAD ME AT WOOF is heartwarming, amusing and sometimes intense. It reveals that what we see in ourselves in taking care of animals is a direct reflection of our own humanity. It shows our ability to nurture and befriend and love.