A Ticket to the Circus: A Memoir: book review

April 25, 2010

Title: A Ticket to the Circus: a memoir
Author: Norris Church Mailer
ISBN: 978-1400067947
Hardcover: 432 pages
Publisher: Random House (April 6, 2010)
Category: memoir
Review source: publisher
Rating: B

Norris Church Mailer is a lot of things: a daughter, a mother, a wife, a student, a teacher, an artist, a model, a writer, a scenester, a cancer survivor. In her candid, revealing memoir A Ticket to the Circus, Norris reflects on her youth in Arkansas, her marriage at age 20 and then meeting and marrying writer Norman Mailer at age 26. Young Norris [then Barbara] dreamed a lot and knew that she wouldn’t stay in Arkansas forever although she enjoyed being close to her family and loved the state. Norris ached to get out and travel and see the world. Norris also knew that there were challenges beyond any she could find in Arkansas that she needed to discover on her own.

She attended college and took to art classes and ended up teaching art at a high school for several years. Norris invited herself to a party after Norman’s book reading and he immediately became smitten with the red-haired enigmatic and confident young woman. Not long after, Norris moved to New York to be close to Norman and she immediately fell in love with the city.

Clod or angel, there are many reasons we lasted for thirty-three years, aside from the physical passion, which was as intense decades into the marriage as it was at the beginning, if not as frequent. As trite as it sounds, I think we stayed together because we really loved each other, we loved our kids, we loved our life, and we were comfortable together. We had each found someone whose quirks and habits we could live with, like a key in a lock. Besides, if I had left him, as I seriously considered only once, I would have always wondered what he was up to, and would have been miserable in my curiosity.

Nearly twice her age, Mailer complemented Norris and the two remained married for thirty years. Norris became Mailer’s sixth and final wife. The most appealing aspect of Mailer’s memoir is its friendly, conversational tone and her ability to weave a wonderful story. She recalls mostly good times with Norman but there were struggles that many couples go through as well. Norris came into Norman’s life as his mistress but it still shocked her to find out that he’d been having affairs about 15 years into their marriage. Norris provides insight into living with a famous and talented man as well as making the social scene around New York. There are glamorous parties, celebrity friendships and also the real day-to-day ins and out of a marriage. There’s that certain ennui which couples often face. There’s the inherent conflict between two creative, career-driven types and also for two people with close family ties. Fortunately for Norris and Norman, this worked to their advantage.

A Ticket to the Circus is an autobiography about a strong, determined woman with an immense capacity to love, to care for others and to create beautiful things. It’s also an intense love story about a seemingly mismatched but ultimately perfectly paired couple. This is one memoir not to be missed.

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Bundchen/Brady Watch: the scoop on the L.A. manse

April 24, 2010

As reported by the NY Daily News, here are some details on the Brady/Bundchen Los Angeles mansion

–3.75-acre Brentwood lot
–eight-bedrooms
–six-car garage
–a covered bridge connecting two parts of the house
–a nursery for 5-month-old son Benjamin
–lagoon-shaped pool – with spa.
–cardio room
–weight room
–wine bar
–art gallery
–service kitchen
–butler’s quarters
–recreation room with 19-foot ceilings


TV recap: Survivor: Heroes vs. Villains

April 24, 2010

Not really an action-filled episode but more about strategy.

Heroes and Villains merge & neither tribe is eager to join with the other.

Parvati: “Only the King and Queen have the hidden immunity idols. And the Queen has to keep some secrets except from her lady in waiting Danielle.” [she is talking about how both she and Russell have HIIs but Russell doesn't know she has one.]

Parvati is feeling on the outs and thinks she’s going to be voted out first.

Parvati: “Do these people think I’m stupid?”
Danielle: “Yes.”

**I really like Parvati’s attitude, confidence and joie de vivre.

Russell lies to JT and Rupert that he used the hidden immunity idol they gave him. He says: “I swear on my kids.”

Russell: “Hooked, lined and sinker. They’re biting everything I tell them.”

Sandra tells Rupert that Russell is the Kingpin and Parvati is the second in command but she’s not sure that anyone really believes her.

Rupert is skeptical about Russell but JT believes him; so they decide to tell Russell that they are all going to vote for one person and vote for someone else.

Amanda and Parvati talk. Amanda says she’ll tell Parvati who they are voting for. Parvati tells Amanda that she has an immunity idol. Amanda says she only wants to tell Parvati a bit because if Parvati makes it to the end, “she’ll win.”

Immunity challenge: hold on to totem poles for as long as possible. Parvati and Danielle are the last ones left and P gives it up to D since P already has immunity idol.

Russell gives Parvati the hidden immunity idol to play to protect herself because it seems like everyone wants Parvati gone but she’s not quite sure even though Amanda tells her to play it.

The heroes all decide to vote for Jerri because if the villains have the HII, the tribe is “least likely to give it to Jerri.” All the villains vote for JT.

When Jeff asks for HII, Parvarti gives one to Sandra and one to Jerri.

JT is voted out. Great use of the idols.


MUSIC: Upcoming Shows in Boston/Cambridge

April 24, 2010

**I will be at all the following shows [unless something bizarre happens], say hi!**

April 24
The Faith and the Muse
Paradise Rock Club
Boston

May 9
As Tall As Lions
Bear Hands
Middle East Downstairs
Cambridge

June 2
Athlete
Middle East
Cambridge Mass

June 3
This Town Needs Guns
Great Scott
Allston


MUSIC: What I’m listening to…

April 24, 2010

MGMT, Congratulations
–no new indie band will ever replace my beloved Death Cab for Cutie but this is a solid indie band with infectious songs and lyrics overflowing with attitude

She and Him, Vol. 2
–reviewed this a while ago. it’s really a throwback to the 50s and 60s and is so sunny that however bad a mood you’re in, you’ll feel at least 10% happier

Goldfrapp, Headfirst
–adore the breathy vocals with trance-beats & alt-hip-hop arrangements

The Radio Dept., Clinging to a Scheme
–ombines intriguing compositions and hypnotic vocals for an engulfing, atmospheric feeling


National Poetry Month: Maria Shriver reads from “The Journey”

April 24, 2010

notice Maria’s cool blue nail polish too!


FILM: artificial insemination = film trend of summer

April 21, 2010

First: the awful, uncreative, predictable The Back-Up Plan opening this week.

Next up: Jennifer Aniston [She's made it clear she wants children in real life, so why does she keep taking roles about single women who want to get pregnant? I'm just thinking it might be tough or perhaps she can tap into her own feelings and it's not.] stars in The Switch.

Switch has promise–
1. the pedigree [based on a short story by Jeffrey Eugenides-- Middlesex and The Virgin Suicides]
2. the cast of this film– Jennifer Aniston, Jason Bateman [Juno], Jeff Goldblum, Patrick Wilson [Little Children], Juliette Lewis [Whip It!]
3. the premise– Wally, the best friend [Bateman] switches his own sperm with Roland [Wilson] aka the “ideal specimen donor” and seven years later when Kassie [Aniston] returns to New York the similarities between the child and Wally are uncanny
4. instead of the standard rom-com, The Switch seems like a darker comedy with a much better cast
5. while the premise is far from original– The Switch might work– even if Paul Rudd and Jennifer Aniston did a twist on this theme ten years ago with The Object of My Affection

The Object of My Affection

Juno (Special Edition + Digital Copy) [Blu-ray]

Little Children

Whip It


FILM review: The Back-Up Plan

April 21, 2010

Opening scene: Zoe is freaking out because she hadn’t gotten a pedi to go to her OB/GYN.
Doctor says: “I’m not looking at your toes. I’m looking at your cervix.”

Of course as there are few original films out, The Back-Up Plan is a remake of 1995′s A Modern Affair with Stanley Tucci and Lisa Eichhorn. Zoe [Jennifer Lopez] has always wanted a baby although she thought she’d do so the “traditional” way with a husband. The day that she is artificially inseminated– and her artificial insemination takes the FIRST go-around. I’d like to know how often that happens– she and Stan [Alex O’Loughlin], an organic farmer, meet-cute in a cab. After TWO dates, the pair are smitten but of course the pregnancy *may* complicate things.

It’s that Hollywood Rom-Com theory –once you give up on guys and make your own plan to have a child without a guy involved, you get involved with a guy. But it’s also that fairytale world where everything falls together in the end. All your dreams magically come true.

Mona, her friend with four children, tells her her boobs will look like tube socks and then says she doesn’t even want to tell what it will do to bladder. So supportive. When Zoe shops for baby supplies she’s totally overwhelmed by everything. Zoe skeptically attends a class called Single Mothers. She laments: “Thought I’d have kids by now. Guess it’s time from my back-up plan.” There’s a water birth in the film– great to show it– however it turns into a cliched joke with women beating drums and tons of screaming when I think it’s supposed to be much more peaceful. It’s chaotic and psychotic.

The Back-Up Plan contains plenty of slapstick moments and even a few bathroom humor jokes. Stan goes to kiss Zoe on their first date and spills red wine on her new dress. The table is set on fire. She grabs a hose and gets him soaked and then they have a water fight. Zoe goes to tell her nana that she’s pregnant and of course the lady can’t hear her and then those she’s walking with yell: “She’s pregnant, turn up your hearing aid!” On date two, Stan invites Zoe away for the weekend to see his farm. She drives in and sees him shirtless on tractor and crashes her car. Ugh ugh. Sexist/ body image alert: Zoe struggle to get dressed for a fancy event and can barely squeeze herself into dress and Stan says “Do you have a jacket?” Once at the event, she stands in the mirror looking at herself while sucking in her stomach.

The Back-Up Plan is not surprising at all but very predictable. I also think it’s so unrealistic that they have two dates and are starting to envision a life together. Does that really happen because in all my dating, it has never happened to me. Another sexist moment: When admitting to her friend she’s falling for this guy, she thinks about being a “barefoot” stay-at-home mom. The script is written by Kate Angelo [What About Brian] which appalls me. How can a woman write such a banal script? But then I think about Tina Fey’s insidious Baby Mama.

Jennifer Lopez is charming, laid back and naturally glowing She needs better material but is good with comedic performance. Lopez and O’Loughlin have a low-key, effortless chemistry. I just would like to see Lopez get another role like Out of Sight.

STEELE SAYS: WAIT FOR THE DVD [ONLY IF YOU ARE A LOPEZ FAN


Beatrice and Virgil: book review

April 21, 2010

Title: Beatrice and Virgil
Author: Yann Martel
ISBN: 978-1-4000-6926-2
Hardcover: 197 pages
Publisher: Spiel and Grau (April 13, 2010)
Category: contemporary fiction
Review source: publisher
Rating: 3/5

Lyrically written throughout and an intriguing story at its outset, Beatrice and Virgil lacks something difficult to even describe. Beatrice and Virgil introduces us to Henry, an author who wrote a very popular book. Henry is a not even a thinly veiled stand-in for Martel. He writes about the aftermath of writing a successful novel. The awards, the speaking engagements and the letters he receives from fans and aspiring writers alike. Now Henry struggles to figure out how to publish a flip-book [part fiction/ part non-fiction about the Holocaust].

When Martel eloquently meditates on fiction, it’s provocative. How one defines quality fiction, the importance of literature and technique in writing fiction are all addressed at the beginning of the novel. It makes me wish that Martel would pen a book on how to write fiction.

But fiction and nonfiction are very rarely published in the same book. That was the hitch. Tradition holds that the two must be kept apart. That is how our knowledge and impressions of life are sorted in bookstores and libraries—separate aisles, separate floors—and that is how publishers prepare their books, imagination in one package, reason in another. It’s not how writers write. A novel is not an entirely unreasonable creation, nor is an essay devoid of imagination. Nor is it how people live. People don’t so rigorously separate the imaginative from the rational in their thinking and their actions. There are truths and there are lies—these are the transcendent categories, in book as in life. The useful division is between fiction and non fiction that speaks the truth and the fiction and nonfiction that utters lies.

Henry receives strange correspondence from a fan. He first puts it aside yet it intrigues him. It’s a dark story called The Legend of Saint Julian Hospitator by Flaubert about a child obsessed with killing animals. The admirer also encloses a short excerpt from a play he’s written called Beatrice and Virgil. Henry recognizes these names from Dante’s Divine Comedy. He tracks down the author who’s a taxidermist and Beatrice [a donkey] and Virgil [a howling monkey] exist, stuffed of course, right in his shop. Henry and the taxidermist begin to go through the play and Henry believes it’s reminiscent of the Holocaust and that the purpose of the play might be to shed light or examine the Holocaust but the taxidermist doesn’t come out and say so. Beatrice and Virgil shows only glimpses/ theoretical ideas related to the Holocaust and this happens more than halfway into the novel.

Martel remains very philosophical and there’s much analysis needed to read Beatrice & Virgil which will engage dedicated readers. Martel writes marvelously but unfortunately this story is a bit confusing. Any references to the Holocaust are obscure and indirect [which I suppose is the point and methodology of any true intellectual]. The strange twist at the end disappoints and truly just gives up at the 11th hour on wrapping up the novel with any clear-cut ending or something to keep thinking about afterward. Recently, I saw Yann Martel read from Beatrice and Virgil and then answer some questions. He said there’s no fiction on the Holocaust. Beatrice and Virgil may not be. Skeletons at the Feast by Chris Bohjalian is amazing.

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Christina Hendricks’s LIST for MEN

April 20, 2010

Oh, Esquire and MEN suddenly love “curvy women.” Curvy is usually code for overweight and/or big boobs.

But that’s not what this is about. In Mad Men‘s Joan-style, Christina has compiled a list for men.

We love your body.
Amy: not always

Speaking of your body, you don’t understand the power of your own smell.
Amy: interesting. yes, sometimes. other times, men are gross. But Christina it’s also perhaps pheromones.

We remember forever what you say about the bodies of other women.

We also remember everything you say about our bodies, be it good or bad.

Never complain about our friends — even if we do.

Remember what we like.

We want you to order Scotch.
Amy: to me this screams “I’m an alcoholic.” And hard liquor does.

Stand up, open a door, offer a jacket.

No shorts that go below the knee.

Also, no tank tops.
Amy: absolutely not. tacky.

No man should be on Facebook.
Amy: I definitely wouldn’t want a man I was dating to be on Facebook. I would not friend him.

You don’t know this, but when we come back from a date, we feel awkward about that transition from our cute outfit into sexy lingerie.
Amy: most guys I’ve known just want your clothes OFF. period.

Panties is a wonderful word.
Amy: yes, please say to me “Are you wearing the panties your mother laid out for you?” and I’m all yours. ha.

About ogling: The men who look, they really look.

There are better words than beautiful. Radiant, for instance.

Marriage changes very little.


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