The War on Privacy: book review

December 14, 2009

PUMP UP THE VOULME BOOK TOUR

Title: The War on Privacy
Author: Jacqueline Klosek
ISBN: 978-0275988913
Pages: 248
Publisher: Praeger Publishers (November 30, 2006)
Category: non-fiction
Review source: author
Rating: 4/5

Terrorism is not a new creation; however, it is also undeniable that the current terrorist threat presents new and special challenges to our society. Indeed, the recent wave of terrorist activity has been particularly damaging and profound. The effects of the terrorism of the past few years have transformed and will long continue to influence the way we live for decades, if not centuries, to come. While many of these changes have occurred as a direct result of the acts of terrorists themselves, others have followed and will continue to grow out of our collective response to the acts of the terrorists.

The War on Privacy is densely packed with information about privacy issues around the globe. Author Jacqueline Klosek, a Certified Information Privacy Professional and attorney with Goodwin Procter LLP in New York City, has divided the book into sections which focus on each region of the world. She analyzes how the United States, Africa, the Middle East, Europe, Northern and Southern Neighbors (of the U.S.), South America, Australia, New Zealand, and Asia handle privacy rights, particularly after 9/11. I’ll admit it wasn’t the easiest read for someone who wanted to go to law school but got dismal LSAT scores. Klosek’s intensive research and thorough appraisal of privacy in every region is so complete that The War on Privacy is the ideal reference for privacy issues.

Jacqueline Klosek has answered an arsenal of questions from me. Her writing and interest in this topic’s importance shines through in the book. I have listed what I learned from reading The War on Privacy.

European Data Protection Directive—prohibits export of any personal data from European Union [EU] to third countries without sufficient protection to personal data.

Patriot Act [the Uniting and Strengthening America by Providing Appropriate Tools Required to Intercept and Obstruct Terrorism Act of 2001]—“data mining” efforts of the government. The Government has help from corporations, educational institutions, and other private entities. “Such draft has, of course, put many such entities in the impossible position of having to choose between responding to governmental demands for information on the one hand and honoring privacy commitments made to individuals and complying with privacy laws on the other.”

United Nations Security Council, on September 28, 2001 adopted Resolution 1373—this called upon member states to follow many rules to fight terrorism e.g. “deny safe haven to those who finance, plan, support, or commit terrorist acts or provide safe havens;” and “exchange information in accordance with international and domestic law and cooperate on administrative and judicial matters to prevent the commission of terrorist acts;”

Electronic Communications Privacy Act [ECPA]: “places restrictions on the interception of electronic communications and creates privacy protections for stored electronic communications.”

–Arabic has no equivalent to the English word privacy. Privacy in the Middle East relates to women and family.

Tunisia (where one of my closest friends from high school has lived with her Tunisian husband and two children for nearly 20 years) became the first Arab country to enact a comprehensive data privacy law.

Europe “has a longer history and greater experience with both efforts to protect privacy rights and efforts to counteract the threat of terrorism. Therefore, the jurisdiction may be able to offer some points of guidance for other countries that are dealing with these challenges.”

This is part of the Pump up the Volume Book tour.


Interview: Jacqueline Klosek [The War on Privacy]

December 14, 2009

PUMP UP THE VOLUME BOOK TOUR

Amy Steele [AS]: Why did you decide to write this book?

Jacqueline Klosek [JK]: I undertook writing The War on Privacy because I was very interested in studying and understanding the effect that the “war on terror” was having on privacy rights worldwide.

Ever since completing my studies, a significant part of my legal practice has focused on privacy rights. For the most part, I have worked to help companies meet their obligations for complying with laws concerning privacy and data security. After September 11th, I found that a lot of companies were finding themselves between a rock and a hard place, so to speak. Because of laws and consumer demands, many companies had been making strong commitments regarding data privacy. However, in an effort to reduce the incidence of terrorism, the government was calling upon companies to provide various data and information to the government. Companies were thus placed in a very difficult position, forced to consider whether they provide the information requested by the government or honor the privacy commitments they had made to their customers, for in many cases, they simply could not do both, as the duties were in conflict. At the same time, our government was initiating new and expanding existing information collection and use projects. Upon learning of these developments, I became interested in studying them further and also learning about how the issues were playing out around the world.

AS: How is privacy defined in the U.S.?

JK: There are a vast number of interpretations of the meaning of privacy. I tend to favor Justice Brandeis’s characterization of privacy as the “right to be left alone.” This definition, proposed many years ago, still holds great relevance today. This interpretation of privacy can be applied to a number of different contexts.

AS: Why is Tunisia so advanced to establish data privacy law? (my very good friend from high school has lived there for nearly 20 years)

JK: That is an interesting fact that you have picked up upon. As you have likely observed through the book, there are only a few countries in Africa and the Middle East that have enacted comprehensive privacy laws so Tunisia is certainly in the minority. Tunisia’s progressive – and protective – view of privacy rights was likely influenced by Europe’s main privacy directive (Directive 95/46/EC). This directive contains restrictions on transferring data from Europe to third countries that do not provide adequate protection to personal data. As a result of the enactment of this directive, a fair number of countries outside of Europe acted promptly to enact comprehensive privacy laws that might be considered to provide adequate protection to personal data. They did so to increase the likelihood that they would be able to continue to receive personal data from Europe and enjoy strong cross-border commerce.

AS: What is needed to increase privacy rights in Africa and Middle East?

JK: In jurisdictions where privacy is lacking, I think it will be important for citizens and politicians to perceive a value in privacy and a need for legislative measures to protect privacy rights. For many jurisdictions, the enactment of more stringent privacy laws is often a necessary part of the quest to advance electronic commerce, increase the use of digital health records, transition to electronic voting and undertake other initiatives that may pose a risk to information privacy and security.

AS: Why is it even necessary to establish privacy rights acts?

JK: That is a great question and it is a topic that has been the subject of considerable debate here in the United States. Unlike many countries, we still do not have a comprehensive privacy law here in the United States. As I mentioned above, European Directive 95/46/EC motivates many countries outside of Europe to enact their own privacy laws. While US legislators have debated whether the US needs a comprehensive privacy law, one has not yet been enacted. Instead, our lawmakers have continued to enact privacy laws to address particular perceived vulnerabilities. For example, we have the Children’s Online Privacy Protection Act (“COPPA”) to protect the privacy of children online and the Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act (“HIPAA”) to protect the privacy of our health and medical information.

AS: The book is complex and comprehensive. I think I could understand it enough to learn some things. Thank you for taking the tine with these questions.

JK: Thank you very much for taking the time to read War on Privacy and for proposing these thoughtful questions.

Author Jacqueline Klosek is a Certified Information Privacy Professional and attorney with Goodwin Procter LLP in New York City.

Thank you to Tracee with Pump up the Volume Book Tours for arranging the interview.


Interview: Tonya Chen Mezrich– jewelry designer, community activist and style luminary

December 12, 2009

photo by Eric Levin

Dr. Tonya Chen Mezrich is a non-practicing dentist who designs jewelry for her own collection: Jewel Design by Tonya. While at Dental School at Tufts University, she learned all the skills that she utilizes to design her one-of-a-kind jewelry. She finds jewels at estate sales in Boston, New York, and Paris and also uses sustainable materials, freshwater pearls and semiprecious stones as well as Swarovski crystals to create her unique necklaces.

Tonya is involved with the MFA Museum Council (nice to know as I’ve been a member for several years), the Animal Rescue League of Boston, serves as co-chair for the Boston Ballet Young Partners group, and sits on the advisory board for Mochi Magazine. She works with the Petpals program and brings her trained therapy dog, Bugsy, for regular visits with residents at Susan Ballis Home. If it sounds like Tonya isn’t busy enough, she’s also the Hot List columnist for Boston Common Magazine. The stylish jewelry designer is a nominee for the Daily Candy’s Sweetest Thing Fashion Category, and was named one of Boston Globe’s top 25 most stylish people. Tonya and her husband, best-selling author Ben Mezrich [New York Times bestsellers The Accidental Billionaires and Bringing Down the House], live in the Back Bay.

Amy Steele [AS]: You are a dentist. What did you like and not like about being a dentist?

Tonya Chen Mezrich [TM]: I loved my patients, and really being able to make a difference in people’s lives with dentistry. It was extremely rewarding to be able to give a person who had suffered with no or very little teeth, a new set of teeth and watch them light up with confidence and happiness as a result. What I didn’t particularly care for about being a dentist was all the red tape that insurance companies put patients and dentists through.

AS: Why did you start designing jewelry?

TM: I started designing jewelry during dental school. A friend of mine, who was at Harvard Dental, was always wearing beautiful jewelry. She told me she made it all, and that it was very easy to do. She encouraged me to start designing my own. So I took my tools from dental lab class and started making earrings. Everyone loved them, so I moved onto necklaces.

AS: You said that dentistry and jewelry making were closely related. How is this so?

TM: They are closely related because they involve the same skill set. A good mind in structure, foundation and design, and a good set of hands to accomplish it! Both fields are extremely detail oriented. You wouldn’t want a diamond falling out of its prong setting, just as you wouldn’t want a crown falling off of your tooth. A dentist is trained in casting metals, bending wires, waxing up, etc, the same exact skills needed to produce jewelry.

AS: How did you learn the fine art of jewelry making, even if it is like dentistry?

TM: I am a self-taught jewelry maker. I learned it all by trial and error. But it also helped me having a strong background in fashion, as well as fine arts training my whole life.

AS: Why is your jewelry unique?

TM: My jewelry is unique because my designs come from the heart, and are made of one of a kind materials. When a design is made from the heart, it shows. It’s not just some cookie-cutter piece of jewelry that you see anywhere. My jewelry turns heads, and makes the woman who wears it feel confident and beautiful.

AS: How are you making the jewelry, with what kind of techniques? [An aside I know nothing about jewelry-making]

TM: I make the jewelry using wire bending and wrapping techniques, as well as incorporating mixed media. I do not have the lab space yet to do castings, but I would like to in the future.

AS: What inspires your designs?

TM: I look around at nature, and at what people are wearing fashion-wise, to get hints as to what jewelry would pair well for each season. I am also inspired by many successful jewelry designers such as Erickson Beamon and Alexis Bittar.

AS: Where is your pug while you are working? How jealous does he get that you need creative time or have you worked out an arrangement? [writer's note: Tonya talks about her pug a lot on Twitter!]

TM: My pug hangs around nearby when I’m working. So he’s really right there in it the whole time. He sometimes even gets to test run my jewelry to make sure the pieces are solid and wearable. I’d say he’s the most fashionable pug on the block by far.

AS: What is your favorite type of jewelry (i.e. bracelet, necklace etc)?

TM: My favorite type of jewelry to design is necklaces. I used to do a lot of earrings, but I moved over to necklaces, because I am really into the chunky statement piece style. I don’t like to make chunky earrings because they pull at the lobes and stretch the holes, so I steer away from this style. I do have a signature chandelier earring that is extremely light, but still has a substantial appearance of “looking chunky”. People love this style because they can have the chunk without the damage that actual chunk causes!

AS: How much pressure do you feel having the Style Boston show and also being named one of Boston’s most fashionable people?

TM: There’s a lot of pressure being named one of Boston Globe’s most fashionable people, and also being nominated this year as The Daily Candy’s Sweetest Thing in the Fashion category. I used to just wear my lulu lemons out all day long. But now there’s this pressure to really look the part and put a good outfit together before leaving the house. (You never know who you might run into). But the pressure is kinda fun. It takes a really creative process to come up with a good outfit that works well and is perfectly accessorized. I am lucky to have a good husband who helps vote on whether outfits make the pass or not.

AS: What do you like most about making jewelry?

TM: I love the creative process. I have a million designs in my head, and on sketches that need to be realized. I just wish there were more hours in the day to accomplish them!

AS: What is the most challenging aspect of making jewelry?

TM: The most challenging aspect is making sure a piece is solid and wearable, and finding more hours in the day to design. The solidity of a piece is very important to me; I think it is because I come from a dental background, where foundation is so key. I hear a lot of people complaining because this or that piece of jewelry from another designer or a cheap design broke. A good piece of jewelry that is well designed should not break with normal wear and tear. (But ladies, I’m not saying to treat your jewelry like it’s a chain link fence or a set of handcuffs, it IS delicate, and should be handled with care) However, from standard normal wear, jewelry should not break. If you are buying disposable jewelry from an H & M or similar line, then you shouldn’t expect it to last forever either.

AS: What is the one essential item of jewelry a woman MUST own?

TM: A statement necklace.

AS: Where can people find your jewelry?

TM: Moxie on Charles St and in Wellesley, Serenella on Newbury St.

AS: Thank you Tonya! Have a Happy Chanukah. I definitely look forward to owning one of those gorgeous necklaces one day.


Veggie Tales: Saint Nicholas– DVD review

December 12, 2009

Title: Veggie Tales: Saint Nicholas: A Story of Joyful Giving
Running time: 45 minutes
MPAA: Not Rated
Release date: October 6, 2009
ASIN: B002FOFX6U
Studio: Big Idea
Review source: Special Ops Media
age range: 2-5
Rating: B

In Veggie Tales: Saint Nicholas, Laura Carrot is worried that she might not get any gifts this Christmas because her dad might lose his job. Junior Asparagus and his friends learn of Laura Carrot’s woes and all come up with their ideas of the meaning of Christmas. Much of it is done through entertaining song. Veggies Tales is nothing if not engaging and rather hypnotic and full of tons of singing—all things that toddlers adore to watch. Finally, Bob the Tomato asks the Veggies if they know who Santa really is. “Have you heard of Saint Nicholas?” he asks. And soon back in time we go to tell the story of the Birth of Christmas and how a little boy became Saint Nicholas. It is all done through song and a simple story that children can understand and enjoy. Veggie Tales: Saint Nicholas has a bit too much God and religion involved for my liking but I suppose Christmas is a Christian holiday and that must be included.

Bonus Features:
“Give This Christmas Away” Operation Christmas Child music video
Behind The Song with Matthew West and Amy Grant
Art Gallery
Audio Commentary
Sing Along with Larry
Discussion Guide
Family Activity – “Bob & Larry’s Sugar Cookies”


The Christmas Hope: Lifetime Movie review

December 11, 2009

The Christmas Hope
Lifetime
December 12

The Christmas Hope is a rather predictable story based on the third book in the best-selling Christmas trilogy by Donna VanLiere. The Christmas Hope follows Patti [Madeline Stowe] and Mark Addison [James Remar], a couple in a troubled marriage, due to the death of their only son several years before. Patti is a social worker and at Christmas she finds she needs to bring home a foster child, Emily [Tori Barban], who has no where else to go. This child ends up bringing Patti and her husband Mark closer together and also healing some of their long buried wounds.

I have to say it’s the typical Lifetime movie: a couple who is having “issues”; a child who brings them together; a child who has no home and needs a family; a broken couple who opens their hearts and home to a girl who recently lost her mother; and the couple manages to settle their differences in time for the holiday.

GRADE: C-

Screener provided to me by Lifetime Publicity Dept.


Three Different Workout DVDs: Core Fusion, Bollywood Blast, Shiva Rea yoga

December 8, 2009

Title: Exhale: Core Fusion Pure Abs & Arms
Running time: 50 minutes
MPAA: Not Rated
Release date: December 1, 2009
ASIN: 054961829590
Studio: Acacia Lifestyle
Review source: Acorn Media
Rating: A-

Wife and husband trainer team Elisabeth Halfpapp and Fred DeVito have developed this DVD which targets the entire upper body. The exercises are based on the duo’s popular Core Fusion and Core Fusion Sport classes that attract Heidi Klum, Cameron Diaz, Julia Roberts, Mario Lopez and Kate Hudson, among others. The program has been segmented into five ten minute sessions: Upper Body Weights; Upper Body; Abdominals; Abdominal Curl with Leg Variations and Upper Body, Back, and Hip Stretches. It is sure to easily fit any schedule.

Elisabeth is great. Fred is a bit dry. The exercises really target the core and this team knows its stuff. That is clear from doing several of the routines. It’s a fantastic workout to do daily: just pick one each day for ten minutes. My friend and I did both ab workouts and the Upper Body, Back and Hip Stretches and could definitely feel the burn. This is one DVD worth investing in.

Title: Exhale: Bollywood Dance Blast
Running time: 50 minutes
MPAA: Not Rated
Release date: December 1, 2009
ASIN: 054961850993
Studio: Acacia Lifestyle
Review source: Acorn Media
Rating: B

Bollywood films have always been popular throughout the world. <em>Slumdog Millionaire</em> has really only brought the music to the United States and also the dance number nod to Bollywood films at its ending. Hemalayaa, a Bollywood fitness star, features two new workouts on Bollywood Dance Blast. Each workout [Removing Obstacles and Celebrate!] is a 20-minute cardio routine.

The Indian music provides a grooving background beat and Hemalayaa has plenty of energy. Many of her moves are similar to basic aerobics set to Indian music. I wanted more Bollywood infuesed into it and that was disappointing that it was not. It still gets your heart pumping and is a fun work out.  When Hemalayaa started to focus on hip movement: openers and rotations, I enjoyed that and felt I worked parts of my body I might not otherwise concentrate on. It definitely felt good. She talks of getting rid of “biodegradable and compostable waste” (bad energy) and then put on “sexy spiritual boots” to stomp it back into the earth. <em><strong>Bollywood Dance Blast</strong></em> definitely will add variety to your work out routine.

Title: Exhale: Shiva Rea: Daily Energy Vinyasa Flow Yoga
Running time: 168 minutes
MPAA: Not Rated
Release date: December 1, 2009
ASIN: 054961831395
Studio: Acacia Lifestyle
Review source: Acorn Media
Rating: A

Shiva Rea’s latest DVD features seven 20-minute practices—one for each day of the week. There are six pre-set practices and there’s also a customizable Yoga Matrix where users can combine segments [I’ve used this feature on another Shiva Rea DVD and it is fantastic. You are left with endless opportunities for workouts. What YOU want to do]. Shiva Rea might take a bit of getting used to at first but her techniques work. You’ll feel looser, much more relaxed and lengthened after completing one of her sessions. And that’s the whole point of yoga isn’t it? Shiva Rea has a soothing voice, a perfect yoga body and expert poses. All her practices have excellent pacing and a variety of poses. After the workout I chose, I felt looser muscles, opened joints, and overall calmness. <em><strong>Shiva Rea: Daily Energy Vinyasa Flow Yoga</strong></em> is a must for your DVD workout collection.

<em>20-minute Practices:</em> Earth, Shanti, Heart-Air, Fire &Water, Water, Fire and Chakra Namaskar
<em>Extra Segments:</em> Solar Meditation, Lunar Meditation, Core, Forward Bends, and Shavasana

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For more information on the DVDs visit the Acacia Lifestyle Website.


Interview: author Melissa Senate [The Secret of Joy]

December 6, 2009

See my earlier review of The Secret of Joy by Melissa Senate. Recently Melissa took the time to answer these questions for me.

AMY STEELE [AS]: Why did you decide to have Rebecca live in Manhattan and Joy live in Maine?

MELISSA SENATE [MS]: I moved to Maine from New York City (where I’d lived since 1989) in 2004 and I can clearly see every day that Maine is a beautiful, easy place to live. But five years later, it still doesn’t feel like home. I think I sent my main character to Maine to find what I know is here (the beauty, the quaint, the lack of traffic and honking, the quirky), but haven’t really appreciated on any kind of level (except where it concerns my young son; Maine is made for kids). I think I made Maine and Wiscasset sound dreamy because I know it is and wanted to help myself see it. It did work a little. But for me, a lighthouse will never compare to Central Park’s Bethesda Terrace with its Angel of Waters statue.

AS: How do the differences between and urban and then a more serene, rural setting advance or influence the story?

MS: It’s interesting to me that New York seems like the bad guy in the story. It’s where Rebecca can’t find herself, can’t breathe, gets her worst news, feels trapped by her own . . . rut. And Maine is where everything opens for her.

[writer’s note: I’m an urbanite but I would, if I could afford to, have a country house in The Berkshires, Maine or Vermont]

AS: Many TV shows and films, place the urban woman in the middle-of-nowhere town where hilarity ensues. You definitely took a different approach with Rebecca. Why? Have you had some experience in this with your own move from NY to Maine?

MS: I’m a sucker for those fish out of water movies, even ones starring Renee Zellweger. But being in a very different environment wasn’t at all a driving force in the novel. Granted, the setting created its own world, but at its heart, this story could have been told with basing Joy in the East Village of Manhattan. Would have sounded different, sure, but the “middle of nowhere” aspect for The Secret of Joy was really to send Rebecca off to a place that in itself would be comforting. A comforting, sweet backdrop so that when she felt most alone, her surroundings would be like a hug. One of my favorite blurbs for The Secret of Joy said it was “a warm hug of a book.” I love that.

AS: How realistic do you think it is that Rebecca fits in so quickly in the town?

MS: When I first moved to Maine, to a small town with one (unnecessary) traffic light, I felt like I fit in right away. One neighbor knocked on the door the first day with vegetables from her garden. Another invited me to a book club meeting. Fitting in can often depend on how you feel about where you are. The people Rebecca meets (and the people I met) are not very different than she is, really. More down jackets and fewer pointy high heels, maybe.

AS: How did you come up with the idea of the letters unsent, kept in the box?

MS: Much of The Secret of Joy is based on what I wish I knew about my own biological father, who I haven’t seen or heard from since I was eight. I have always known that, as the result of his own affair, I have a half-sibling who was born when I was seven, a half-sibling I’d never seen or heard from until I was in my thirties when I received an email that said: I think you might be my half sister…. The story isn’t at all autobiographical; just that nugget of half-siblings connecting as adults is based from real life, but there are certain things I wish were true. One is that my biological father wrote a stash of letters explaining himself—and in a way that would bring closure. That’s one of the most wonderful things about writing fiction that you can change whatever you want to fix in your own life.

[writer’s note: I “re-connected” with my father as an adult (I too had not seen him since I was about 10) and he published a magazine in L.A. and I’m a writer. How perfect. Well, he blew it again and again. We agreed I’d write for him. He’d pay me a small amount. The check bounced. Same dead beat dad. And after all that time, what hurt the most was that his daughter he hadn’t seen in 20 years was there and he could have re-established a relationship and he chose not too.]

AS: Why sisters? What is it about the bond between sisters that usually makes for a compelling story?

MS: What I love about the dynamic between sisters is the potential. You should be best friends, first best friends from the tiniest of tot hood, but oftentimes sisters are not best friends, not friends at all because of what parents do their children, whether meaning to or not, or because the sisters are just very different people. What’s possible, what should be, is what I find so beautiful and love delving into.

AS: What do you think The Secret of Joy can tell people about family dynamics?

MS: What was reinforced for me during the writing of this book is that sometimes (and key word is sometimes) there’s no real bad guy when it comes to family dysfunction, that all involved feel differently about things depending on their point of view and personalities. I’m a happy person because of this way of thinking.

AS: Why did you choose the travel group as a career for Joy and the paralegal at a mediation firm for Rebecca?

MS: I wanted to give Rebecca a career that made endings a good thing, which is a bad thing for her. And I wanted to give Joy a career that made beginnings, and the open road, a necessity. Rebecca’s job is so bad for her that it helps her be in a place where she wants to flee. And Joy is right where she needs to be, with a foot firmly on the brake that slowly lifts up.

[writer’s note: Very clever. I never thought of that in reading it but now I see it and adore that idea--delightful!]

AS: What is your favorite aspect of the novel?

MS: What I love most is the spirit I think is there. There are a lot of stuck people in the novel, and at the end, they’re all on the way to finding the secret of joy for themselves. No one’s found it, of course, but they’re seeking it instead of doing absolutely nothing or remaining status quo or stuck in a rut. The seeking is everything.

AS: What do you find to be the greatest challenge about writing?

MS: Finding my main character’s heart and soul and putting voice to that. It takes me a good one hundred pages until I feel like I know her inside and out and can really tell her story. The fun part of that is then I can go back through those first 100 pages and color what’s black and white.

AS: How did you create the character of Michael—he’s like my ex-boyfriend and usually the type of guy I’m attracted to- successful but controlling?

MS: Yup, know the type! I’m not attracted to controlling, but I’ve had controlling boyfriends and I know how easy it is to lose yourself to their voice, their opinion, especially when you don’t know what you want or where you should be. For Rebecca, leaving controlling Michael, leaving her job, leaving her home would take something very big, something that was all hers and meant nothing to anyone else but her. That something presented itself in the form of a half-sister, a total stranger. And she reaches out for it. Michael calls her constantly in Maine, comes after her, never really listening to her from the beginning. He seems supportive, full of hugs and hot chocolate and wine and “their future,” but what he actually says is rat poison.

AS: What kind of research went into The Secret of Joy? as it is unusual for an adult to find her sister after the death of her parent.

MS: Eight years ago, I received an email that said: I think you might be my half-sister. Can you imagine getting that email out of the blue? The I think itself floored me. I took the nugget of that and created an entirely fictional premise and plot and characters, but the emotional impact, the emotions, period, all very real. That was my research!

AS: Why was Rebecca so desperate for a family that she didn’t even know in Maine. What attracted her so much to Maine?

MS: I don’t think she was desperate for a family; I think she was given this wisp of a huge thing (a secret half-sister) by her dying father and that it felt like a lifeline to her. A connection to herself, when she felt she had none—no family, no sense of herself or where she belonged. What she was desperate for was what was possible.

AS: Why the title The Secret of Joy?

MS: My editor came up with that perfect title, which now seems like such a no-brainer. (I’d originally called it The Love Bus, but the art department had big trouble designing the cover with such an odd title.) The main character’s secret half sister is named Joy, but what the title means for me is that the secret of joy is individual for every character in the book and they’re all finally looking for it. As I said, I think the seeking is everything.

AS: Thank you Melissa. I enjoyed The Secret of Joy and really enjoyed See Jane Date too which I read when it first came out.

MS: Thank you! I loved all your in-depth, insightful, and interesting questions!

[writer’s note: You are one of my new favorite author-friends! If I can be so bold to say that.]


Everyone cool is reading Erica Kennedy’s FEMINISTA

December 6, 2009

Okay, I read it a while ago but if you haven’t read FEMINISTA by Erica Kennedy– I insist!

And be sure to check out Erica’s complete FEMINISTA slide show. [it includes one hot McCained pic by the hysterical and gorgeous Rachel True]


Paper Heart: now on DVD (re-posting of film review/interview)

December 6, 2009

The review of Paper Heart, which I saw at a press screening, is a re-post of my review and interview from August.

Paper Heart is a thoughtful, revolutionary and sweet examination of love. At the beginning of the film, 23-year-old Comedienne/ writer Charlyne Yi admits she does not know what love is and feels incapable of being in love. She says that she has never been in love.

“I haven’t been in that many relationships either for the reason of not feeling mutual about the person— them not liking me or me not liking them—or the idea of getting to know someone and not hating them in the end or it just not working out,” Yi elaborates. “Not even hate, it just doesn’t feel right. It takes so much time to realize that. I think when this idea occurred I was 18 and I was new to the world and I was like, “I don’t want to hit on people at bars.” I think it was just me scared of the world and having to dive in and meet strangers and meet them in a way that you are so comfortable that you can be yourself and to learn about them too and for them to be comfortable to a point where you either: A. feel the same way about them or B. have to grow apart and that’s kinda scary.”

Most likely, a lot of people can probably relate, including this critic, who has never been in true love [only unrequited] and is a decade older. This is why Paper Heart will move many people, hit a nerve, and win over audiences with its honesty.

“Do you believe in love?” Jake Johnson asks me during our sit down at Felt in Boston. “Do you believe in the ability to love? If this was an interview during Paper Heart, do you believe that there’s love?”

“Well, I’m pretty cynical about it now because I have this ex-boyfriend who broke up with me after two years and yet we’re still friends,” I explained. “It’s been eight years. We would have been good people to interview. Well, he’s an engineer so he doesn’t talk at all. He mimes things.”

“You’re not still in love with him are you?” Yi asks in a gentle tone.

“Yeah, I still love him,” I say. “It’s just this weird relationship and obviously he really cares about me. We go on dates. We do everything a married couple does except do anything intimate.”

“This is the best interview ever!” Johnson says excitedly while clapping his hands.

Yi takes her quest on the road to find all love-related answers. Her goal is to change the way she thinks. Johnson plays Nick [aka the director], someone whom Yi can confide in and someone who also can nudge her along here and there.

“It was weird because it was going to be a really small part but along the way we realized how essential this character was and we’re so lucky we had him,” Yi admits. “Otherwise, it would be a lot of me going [she uses a funny voice], “Ah, hey camera.” You know you’d never get any information or see the character growing.”

Interspersed in Yi’s pursuit for answers is a tender, evolving pseudo-relationship between Yi and all-around modest good guy Michael Cera, who in the film she meets at a party in Los Angeles. Cera tells Yi he’s seen her do stand-up and then asks someone about her saying she’s “mysterious.” Soon after the party, the two go on a first date. The budding romance is at times awkward but slow and gentle.

“There’s like 300 hours of footage for an hour and a half movie. I think I said the line, “So what’s going on with you and Mike?” probably no joke, 6,000 times in different takes,” Johnson stresses. “Because a lot of times we’d be in a beautiful location and [Nick] would say, “Let’s just do a scene.” And it would start with asking about Mike and where would it be in different points of the relationship so when they were editing it they could use any scene they wanted.”

A charming aspect of Paper Heart comes when Yi asks real people throughout the United States about love in its various modes. In Lubbock, TX, scientists literally explain the science of love: the biology, chemistry, biochemistry, physics, and mechanisms of the heart and brain that make a person feel like she or he is in love. Bikers in Oklahoma City explain their love/hate relationships, while in Las Vegas, Yi questions people at the quickie wedding chapels. At the L.A Zoo, she wants to film animals expressing love. Yi interviews older couples about their first dates.

“I think [Paper Heart] made me more hopeful in that sense,” Yi admits. “Love to me is doing the most boringest thing, like washing clothes with a person, and enjoying their company still and feeling the same way. And knowing all their faults and still accepting them and hopefully vice-versa.”

Yi then heads to Atlanta where in an adorable scene she talks to a group of rambunctious children about [icky] love and boyfriends and girlfriends. During an interview with interview with Sarah Baker, a romance novelist, the author explains the importance of HEA ending—happily ever after and states that one partner has to sacrifice for the other. Yi discusses divorce with a lawyer and judge in a family court and love and marriage with a gay New York couple.

During this entire exploratory trip, Yi has managed to IM Michael quite a bit and has gone on a few dates. At one point Yi says: “Nick I’m starting to really like Michael.” Since everything between Yi and Cera seem to be moving along quite well, Nick wants the documentary to end in Paris, the City of Love. Unfortunately, Cera is growing tired of everything on camera and ends it with Yi before this can happen. “I’m sad that he wants me to love him and I can’t,” Yi laments. They go to Paris anyway where Yi is visibly miserable the entire time. On their return, they head to Toronto because Yi missed Cera. She doesn’t allow the cameras to follow her inside this time.

“The reason we made the film is that love is universal and everyone wants to mean something to someone,” Yi explains. “I’ve met people who’ve seen the film and it’s made them appreciate what they have or if they don’t have that love it inspires them. It might make them less bitter about love. So that’s great.”

“I also think it is love told through the eyes of a 23-year-old girl,” Johnson adds. “So I think that’s a good way of looking at it. Obviously that’s just another perspective of it.”

Paper Heart is a revelatory delight not to be missed.

Grade: A


The Meaning of Matthew: book review

December 5, 2009


Title: The Meaning of Matthew: My Son’s Murder in Laramie, and a World Transformed
Author: Judy Shepard
ISBN: 978-1594630576
Pages: 273
Publisher: Hudson Street Press (September 3, 2009)
Category: non-fiction
Review source: Penguin Group
Rating: 4.5/5

Eventually, we left Matt so we could speak with a doctor and get a full report on his condition. Our son had more than thirty bruises, abrasions and broken bones—including several fractures where his skull had crashed in on itself. As a result, his brain stem, which controlled his heartbeat, breathing, temperature, and other involuntary functions, was severely damaged. The doctor still didn’t know exactly what had caused Matt’s injuries. But the damage to the head looked like it was the result of repeated blows with a blunt and heavy object.

Most adults remember the horrific hate crime against Matthew Shepard in Laramie, Wyoming a decade ago. The 21-year-old University of Wyoming student was beaten and left to die tied to a fence. He was gay and active in the GLBT group at his university. This horrific disgusting crime put the spotlight on intolerance, alternative lifestyles, individuality, choices and people’s freedom to just exist however they want to live their lives. The Matthew Shepard Act, a bill which expands federal hate-crime laws to protect people attacked due to sexual orientation or gender is was just passed this year by the U.S. Senate, ten years after Mathew’s horrendous ordeal.

The Meaning of Matthew: My Son’s Murder in Laramie, and a World Transformed begins when Judy Shepard hears the news that her eldest son, a blonde blue-eyed young man, lies in a coma due to a bloody beating in Laramie. She is living in Saudi Arabia where her husband works and they must make the arduous trip back to Fort Collins, Colorado to be with Matthew on his final days. The doctors have already told her that there is zero chance that Matthew will ever recover.

Throughout this poignant, heartbreaking and honest narrative, Judy Shepard remembers sitting at Matthew’s hospital side, the enormous outpouring of support from strangers throughout the country, a phone call from President Clinton, and trying to remain supportive of the rest of her family. Judy also recalls Matthew’s life. His experience at a boarding school in Switzerland, when he first came out to her, his rape on a trip to Morocco, finding out while in the hospital that Matthew was HIV positive and his organs would not be able to be donated as Matthew would have wished, his difficulty in settling on a college [after attending one in North Carolina and working a bit, he chose to return home to attend his parents’ alma mater The University of Wyoming]. Judy also details the trials of the accused murderers: Russell Henderson and Aaron McKinney. It is also the story of a mother coping with losing her son and honoring his memory by never letting anyone forget what happened to him and never letting it happen to anyone else.

The refreshing aspect of The Meaning of Matthew is that he was not the perfect role model for gay men everywhere. He was just a man who was gay, struggling to find himself and his own happiness in this world. And two despicable men took away his dreams and goals with several punches one evening. For what? For hate? Because Matthew was different from them?

Judy established the Matthew Shepard Foundation, after received more than $90,000 in donations from well-wishers.

The three areas of focus for the Matthew Shepard Foundation are:

  1. Erase hate by educating society about all aspects of hate (whether it’s based on race, ethnicity, gender, or sexual orientation)
  2. Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Equality
  3. Put children first—educate the public on the needs of gay and lesbian youth

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